How does God view His daughters? To the women reading this, see if you resonate with any of this, help others understand what these words mean to you. What do these words appear to be speaking to us?

Read and Consider

  • before your wives and your children, many of whose feelings are exceedingly tender and chaste and delicate before God, which thing is pleasing unto God (Jacob 2:7)
  • they have come up hither to hear the pleasing word of God, yea, the word which healeth the wounded soul (Jacob 2:8)
  • to enlarge the wounds of those who are already wounded, instead of consoling and healing their wounds (Jacob 2:9)
  • have daggers placed to pierce their souls and wound their delicate minds (Jacob 2:9)
  • in the presence of the pure in heart, and the broken heart (Jacob 2:10)
  • I, the Lord God, delight in the chastity of women. (Jacob 2:28)
  • I, the Lord, have seen the sorrow, and heard the mourning of the daughters of my people in the land of Jerusalem, yea, and in all the lands of my people (Jacob 2:31)
  • I will not suffer, saith the Lord of Hosts, that the cries of the fair daughters of this people, … shall come up unto me against the men of my people (Jacob 2:32)
  • they shall not lead away captive the daughters of my people because of their tenderness (Jacob 2:33)
  • Ye have broken the hearts of your tender wives (Jacob 2:35)
  • the sobbings of their hearts ascend up to God against you (Jacob 2:35)
  • many hearts died, pierced with deep wounds (Jacob 2:35)
  • you that are pure in heart. Look unto God with firmness of mind, and pray unto him with exceeding faith, and he will console you in your afflictions, and he will plead your cause (Jacob 3:1)
  • O all ye that are pure in heart, lift up your heads and receive the pleasing word of God, and feast upon his love; for ye may, if your minds are firm, forever (Jacob 3:2)


Thoughts to Ponder

Question: If God has heard their prayers and delights in their “feelings [which] are exceedingly tender and chaste and delicate before [Him], which thing is pleasing unto [Him];” and “He delights in the chastity of women” … doesn’t it seem odd that the Lord would command the very thing that is breaking the hearts of his daughters?

Question: Would not God’s daughters’ hearts be just as broken if He commanded polygamy the exact same as if he didn’t? If we are honest with ourselves, is it possible to have a polygamist union and not have a broken heart? Can’t you just share ladies?

Question: To the men, could you imagine sharing your wife with another man in a polyandrous union? When you imagine the horrors of that type of relationship would you ever ask your wife to do the same? Wouldn’t your heart be broken? Wouldn’t you be filled with jealousy? Could you imagine the rage and violence that would occur if polyandry were instituted?

Now I understand that the official purpose is to have children, but it’s worth putting the shoe on the other foot to try to understand the hearts and minds of God’s daughters. Would you ever subject your spouse to something that you yourself would not be subjected to?

Question: If God wants lots of babies He will break His daughters hearts to get the outcome he wants? If this is the case, then can we name the many other opportunities where God could have instituted polygamy, but didn’t? Adam, Noah, The Brother of Jared, Lehi. If God is eternal, patient, loving, and kind, does he need polygamy to speed up the process? Are we required to run faster than we have strength?1

Question: Can we notice a difference between “authorized” and “unauthorized” plural marriages? If we look at the history of “sanctioned” polygamist marriages, do we find joy and happiness or do we see those with “broken hearts,” “sobbing hearts,” and “hearts pierced with deep wounds?” I have listed several books written by women who experienced polygamy in early Utah: Polygamy Resources.


Polygamy Continues Today

In LDS Mormonism we have the continued belief in sealing a man to multiple women in this life in the case of divorce or death. This affords the man to collect on both, or multiple earthly sealings in the afterlife. The highest leaders in the church are included with those who have been sealed to more than one woman while in mortality.2

There is a book called “The Ghost of Eternal Polygamy: Haunting the Hearts and Heaven of Mormon Women and Men” and it is heartbreaking. Hearing the stories of modern LDS Mormon women who live in constant fear and dread about having to share their husbands for eternity is gut wrenching and makes one heartsick. It really feels like we’re still suffering curses of polygamy rather than blessings.

For those women in polygamist communities, I know that “sacred loneliness” is a teaching that permeates your circles. Just remember, “Adam fell that men might be; and men are, that they might have joy.”3 Before Nephi died and before polygamy entered the picture, “… it came to pass that we lived after the manner of happiness.”4 When the Nephites temporarily had Zion, “there could not be a happier people among all the people who had been created by the hand of God.”5 You do not have to listen to or follow “those who seek your destruction.”6 I would also add that it may not be wise to break up families, but work instead to educate and prevent your children from adopting the practice.

The Lord is not pleased with those who “lead away captive the daughters of [his] people” and those who do so will be destroyed.7

Part 2.3 | The Thoughts of the Heart


Notes & Sources

  1. “And see that all these things are done in wisdom and order; for it is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength. And again, it is expedient that he should be diligent, that thereby he might win the prize; therefore, all things must be done in order.” Mosiah 4:27
  2. President Russell M. Nelson & Elder Dallin H. Oaks are both sealed to two women. Many Latter Day Saints are puzzled at how eternity will play out for those in a similar situation.

    Polygamy lives on in LDS temples, spurring agony, angst and a key question: Who will be married to whom in heaven? by Peggy Fletcher Stack

  3. 2 Nephi 2:25
  4. 2 Nephi 5:27
  5. 4 Nephi 1:16, see also Alma 50:22–23
  6. “But behold, I, Jacob, would speak unto you that are pure in heart. Look unto God with firmness of mind, and pray unto him with exceeding faith, and he will console you in your afflictions, and he will plead your cause, and send down justice upon those who seek your destruction.”
  7. “For they shall not lead away captive the daughters of my people because of their tenderness, save I shall visit them with a sore curse, even unto destruction; for they shall not commit whoredoms, like unto them of old, saith the Lord of Hosts.” Jacob 2:33